How to go from Surviving to Thriving

Maya Angelou once said: “Survival is very important, but we are living in a time and age where we can practice the elegance of thriving.”

We want to see so many things manifested in our lives, but if we are in a state of survival, there's not much that gets done other than surviving.

So, how do we go from surviving to thriving and why is it important?

Let me tell you a story...

A lady once said to Reverend Michael Beckwith during one of his classes:

“Reverend, I hear you talking about manifestation, reaching your goals, and fulfilling your dreams. I want that for my life. But I also hear you talking about forgiveness, and I don't want to forgive. I'm not ready. So what do I do? Can I still fulfill my dreams even if I don't forgive?” 

To this, the Reverend responded with a story.

At the beginning of Agape times (The reverend's spiritual center in LA), the community would go on bicycle rides. For some reason, he would be the last one to arrive back from...

...

The beautiful struggle of getting into alignment with your inner being

Ever felt like sometimes you take one step forward and 2 steps back?
 
"No one tells you this, but getting into alignment with your inner being can sometimes feel like baptizing a cat." - Michelle Kay
 
The other day I saw this quote and thought it was so funny and so real for us in this path of awakening.
 
Our soul is continuously calling us to listen and to align our selves to authenticity, compassion, and love.
 
When we follow the calling there is a point when we realize that it requires a lot of re-adjusting, trial and error, healing and letting go, and so our egos become like a mad cat resisting "water" like the plague.
 
Here is what I have discovered to tame "the cat" and gracefully get it to love the water:
 
- Don't force, shame or guilt "the cat" to get in the water if it's not ready, instead have compassion and take little steps at the time.
 
- Listen to what "the cat" needs at that moment. When our needs are met,...
...

What, Why and How to Forgive

Tools to find freedom in forgiveness.

Click here to watch the video.

Lewis B. Smedes said: “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and then discover the prisoner was you.”

 This is one of my favorite definitions of forgiveness. 

Not forgiving is one of the biggest incarcerations. When we are not forgiving, we are making ourselves prisoners of our own resentment. But forgiveness has the power to take us away from the prison and stop the self-abuse.

As described by Reverend Michael Beckwith:

“It is vital for our well being to release the anger and make forgiveness a way of life.”

I've had people tell me, “Paola, I can't believe I have to forgive this again, I thought I had already forgiven it!”

 Forgiveness is a way of life. You forgive today, and you feel the goodness of it. Then, in a year or two, you might remember again. The pain raises one more time and so you forgive again. 

See it as peeling the layers of the anger and...

...

How to stand your truth no matter what?!

How to stand your truth no matter what?!

 Do you feel like the world is in chaos right now?

Staying true to your beliefs can feel challenging when uncertainty is ruling. But you can learn to keep your vibes HIGH no matter what!

I want to take you through 4 steps to stand your truth regardless of the circumstances outside of you, these are: 

  • How to shift your perception from: Why is this happening to me? To: What is this happening for? How getting rid of the victim allows for your highest self to take the lead in your life.
  • How to take responsibility for your thoughts and actions and avoid ego-driven thinking.
  • Why judging steals energy from you and how to replace judgment with compassion.
  • Why frustration, negative thinking, comparison, and other heavy emotions rule over your body. And how to tap into your heart's wisdom to move onto a more peaceful state.

I know you're ready to expand your consciousness, so let's get to it.

 

The Universe never contradicts itself....

...

Listening to the calling of the heart

 
I am sure you have heard the advice: "Listen and follow your heart"!
 
Our hearts are wise and always compelled to right action, and our hearts are the way we can listen to what our highest self is calling us to BE.
 
To follow the calling and wisdom of our hearts is probably the most straightforward best advice but very few people will tell you that when you do, there will be a lot of movement and chaos that this act of "following our heart" brings into our lives.
 
In my life, following my heart has caused chaos and uncomfortable movement:
 
- When exiting relationships, friendships, and jobs.
 
- When swimming in uncertainty because after a leap of faith, sometimes you cannot see further than your next step (or at times, not even the next step).
 
- When telling my truth knowing that it will upset a loved one.
 
- When feeling guilty because of saying "no".
 
- When being vulnerable when all I want is to appear...
...

Comparison, the biggest thief of joy

 
Let’s talk about comparison.
 
It took me about 3 years to write my book. Every time I sat down to write an inner voice would say to me: you are not like so and so, why would you even bother to write this?
So I would stop the writing and feel sorry for myself until I would find the courage to write again but to only end up in the same mental cycle.
 
It wasn't a fun cycle.
 
Then I remember hearing for the first time a famous Buddhist quote that says:
 
“Comparison is the biggest thief of joy.”
 
And it shook me.
 
That quote answered why I felt so inadequate when writing my book and in many other aspects of my life.
I was consciously and unconsciously comparing myself, and the feeling of lack and not enough-ness would put me in the losing game of feeling less than, better than or trying to be equal to someone.
 
Then I had a profound spiritual experience.
 
One day my own soul said to me:...
...

Everything you ever wanted to know about Transformational Breathwork.

Transformational Breathwork can be so trippy and healing.

I remember when I was in the process of first dating who is now my husband, James, and I remember going into a breathwork class with Nicole Rager, intending to release anything that could limit my expansion and my opening to the relationship.

I was sitting comfortably; it was a good day, nothing was bothering me, and I was enjoying the class. 

I was breathing in, breathing out.

At one point, Nicole put her fingers in the back of my neck and said calmly: It is safe to be yourself.

Immediately after she said those words, I went back in time to when I was 6 or 7 years old growing up at home with my brother, and I remembered I told myself the story that it was not ok to be me, that I needed to be someone else to be loved.

I had no idea I believed that, and I didn't know how it could be associated with meeting a new person. It was one of the most impactful revelations I have had during a breathwork session. 

What...

...

Owning your worth will change your life (Workshop)

Do you remember the first time you accomplished something great when you were a child? Maybe your team won the school soccer championship, or you got an excellent grade in a test and your parents were so proud.

How did that make you feel?

Let's fast forward a few years. How did it feel when you got that Yes after your most anticipated job interview? Or after graduating from college?

It was a reason to celebrate, right? Because we deserve to celebrate our accomplishments.

Now, what if I told you that after today you don't have to achieve anything to have a reason to celebrate yourself and feel worthy of a beautiful life?

See workshop below!

Brené Brown said:

"There are no prerequisites for worthiness."

I have been deeply committed to my spiritual growth since I was very young, and I have walked many paths during this journey, but it wasn't until I really woke up and realized my truth that everything changed. 

You might wonder what do I mean by woke up?

Well, it wasn't...

...

Insane perspective that will change your love life!

I spent 23 years trying to figure out "the romantic love thing"… You may say, how is that possible, how old are you?. The answer is: I am 35, and this started when I was 12!

 

I had such a rush to find true love. I couldn't wait to stop being a kid so I could experience butterflies in my stomach and a beautiful love story. 

So I did everything to get it right. I tried to be more relaxed, likeable, skinnier, prettier, smarter, detached, attached, tougher, more open-minded, independent, but no wait interdepend is better, sexier, but that was not good enough.

So, I went down the route of becoming more feminine, more spiritual, superwoman but nurturing (otherwise is too masculine), the perfect balance between yin and yang, love myself so I don't need anyone, and etc.… you get the point!

Sigh…

And guess what?! My soulmate was not coming. In fact, the complete opposite, if you know what I mean  

Then I heard the phrase: "when you don't feel that...

...

Meditation For A More Heart-Centred Life.

"Righteousness is the last obstacle to the inner temple" Ram Dass

Many times we try so hard to understand life and ourselves, but in the over-analysis of right or wrong, we miss the point.

We all want to go back home, but we must know that as long as we cling to polarity, we rarely find freedom, and instead, we find rules and righteousness.

Lately, I have been doing meditations for my friends at Rythmia, the magical retreat center in Costa Rica, and today I want to share this particular one with you.

In this meditation, we do a pranayama breathing technique, and then I guide you into your heart.

This is a 20 min meditation, perfect length to go back to truth, peace and home.

With love,

Paola

 

...
1 2 3
Close

YESSS!

You are about to get access to an incredible heart meditation. Thank you so much for trusting my guidance.