The secret to a soulful, healthy relationship

Relationships are everything!

 
I've heard people in the spiritual and self-development community say things like:
 
“You should be able to give everything to yourself”, “You shouldn't need anybody, you should only need yourself”.
 
But let me tell you this: We are relationships beings and as long as we live in this third dimension we need them.
 
When relationships are healthy, they contribute to many areas of your lives so we need to learn how to cultivate them, and there's a secret to it...
 

The secret to cultivating, healing and attracting healthy & soulful relationships

 
The secret ingredient of having magnificent relationships is to connect to what is REAL. To connect to Source.
 
In his book, The answer is you, Michael B. Beckwith says a relationship is stable when we are connected to Source. When the relationship to ourselves and to Source is happening.
 
The problem is, this isn't...
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How to set healthy boundaries

To express the unconditionally loving being that you are, you must have a deep understanding of what healthy boundaries are.

 

Brene Brown's teachings say there is no such thing as unconditional love if we don't know what boundaries are. She has discovered that the people who have more capacity to be loving and compassionate with others are those who are very clear of what their boundaries are.

 

To learn how to set healthy boundaries, let's start understanding the meaning of having a healthy sense of self.

 

Setting boundaries with self 

You need to know what's ok, and what's not ok for you. In order for you to have this clear, you need to have a healthy sense of self, of identity. What this means, is that you have self-respect, self-love, and self-worth.

 

Self-respect starts with knowing what's ok and what's not ok for you. What your values are, what do you value the most, what your needs are, and if they are being met. In my case, freedom is my most...

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´╗┐Spiritual mind treatment to get into the space of truth

 

All our suffering comes from what happens in our minds. From the thoughts, ideas, how we perceive the circumstances in our lives. Pain is inevitable. I can't deny it's painful when we go through a breakup or when someone transitions into eternity and it's painful to see what the world is going through. Yet, suffering is a choice.

So my invitation to you today is to treat your mind so it doesn't become addicted to suffering. Give it a spiritual mind treatment, or what we can also call prayer.

 I grew up in a Christian family and it was beautiful but for various reasons, I always felt rebellious about it. I used to hear the word prayer and think… hmmm that doesn't work for me. But throughout my spiritual journey, I have come to understand and feel God very differently from what I learned growing up. Payer has become a part of my spirituality. And it's ok if this isn't your case because this type of prayer has nothing to do with religion. This is a spiritual...

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How to go from Surviving to Thriving

Maya Angelou once said: “Survival is very important, but we are living in a time and age where we can practice the elegance of thriving.”

We want to see so many things manifested in our lives, but if we are in a state of survival, there's not much that gets done other than surviving.

So, how do we go from surviving to thriving and why is it important?

Let me tell you a story...

A lady once said to Reverend Michael Beckwith during one of his classes:

“Reverend, I hear you talking about manifestation, reaching your goals, and fulfilling your dreams. I want that for my life. But I also hear you talking about forgiveness, and I don't want to forgive. I'm not ready. So what do I do? Can I still fulfill my dreams even if I don't forgive?” 

To this, the Reverend responded with a story.

At the beginning of Agape times (The reverend's spiritual center in LA), the community would go on bicycle rides. For some reason, he would be the last one to arrive back from...

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The beautiful struggle of getting into alignment with your inner being

Ever felt like sometimes you take one step forward and 2 steps back?
 
"No one tells you this, but getting into alignment with your inner being can sometimes feel like baptizing a cat." - Michelle Kay
 
The other day I saw this quote and thought it was so funny and so real for us in this path of awakening.
 
Our soul is continuously calling us to listen and to align our selves to authenticity, compassion, and love.
 
When we follow the calling there is a point when we realize that it requires a lot of re-adjusting, trial and error, healing and letting go, and so our egos become like a mad cat resisting "water" like the plague.
 
Here is what I have discovered to tame "the cat" and gracefully get it to love the water:
 
- Don't force, shame or guilt "the cat" to get in the water if it's not ready, instead have compassion and take little steps at the time.
 
- Listen to what "the cat" needs at that moment. When our needs are met,...
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What, Why and How to Forgive

Tools to find freedom in forgiveness.

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Lewis B. Smedes said: “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and then discover the prisoner was you.”

 This is one of my favorite definitions of forgiveness. 

Not forgiving is one of the biggest incarcerations. When we are not forgiving, we are making ourselves prisoners of our own resentment. But forgiveness has the power to take us away from the prison and stop the self-abuse.

As described by Reverend Michael Beckwith:

“It is vital for our well being to release the anger and make forgiveness a way of life.”

I've had people tell me, “Paola, I can't believe I have to forgive this again, I thought I had already forgiven it!”

 Forgiveness is a way of life. You forgive today, and you feel the goodness of it. Then, in a year or two, you might remember again. The pain raises one more time and so you forgive again. 

See it as peeling the layers of the anger and...

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How to stand your truth no matter what?!

How to stand your truth no matter what?!

 Do you feel like the world is in chaos right now?

Staying true to your beliefs can feel challenging when uncertainty is ruling. But you can learn to keep your vibes HIGH no matter what!

I want to take you through 4 steps to stand your truth regardless of the circumstances outside of you, these are: 

  • How to shift your perception from: Why is this happening to me? To: What is this happening for? How getting rid of the victim allows for your highest self to take the lead in your life.
  • How to take responsibility for your thoughts and actions and avoid ego-driven thinking.
  • Why judging steals energy from you and how to replace judgment with compassion.
  • Why frustration, negative thinking, comparison, and other heavy emotions rule over your body. And how to tap into your heart's wisdom to move onto a more peaceful state.

I know you're ready to expand your consciousness, so let's get to it.

 

The Universe never contradicts itself....

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Listening to the calling of the heart

 
I am sure you have heard the advice: "Listen and follow your heart"!
 
Our hearts are wise and always compelled to right action, and our hearts are the way we can listen to what our highest self is calling us to BE.
 
To follow the calling and wisdom of our hearts is probably the most straightforward best advice but very few people will tell you that when you do, there will be a lot of movement and chaos that this act of "following our heart" brings into our lives.
 
In my life, following my heart has caused chaos and uncomfortable movement:
 
- When exiting relationships, friendships, and jobs.
 
- When swimming in uncertainty because after a leap of faith, sometimes you cannot see further than your next step (or at times, not even the next step).
 
- When telling my truth knowing that it will upset a loved one.
 
- When feeling guilty because of saying "no".
 
- When being vulnerable when all I want is to appear...
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Comparison, the biggest thief of joy

 
Let’s talk about comparison.
 
It took me about 3 years to write my book. Every time I sat down to write an inner voice would say to me: you are not like so and so, why would you even bother to write this?
So I would stop the writing and feel sorry for myself until I would find the courage to write again but to only end up in the same mental cycle.
 
It wasn't a fun cycle.
 
Then I remember hearing for the first time a famous Buddhist quote that says:
 
“Comparison is the biggest thief of joy.”
 
And it shook me.
 
That quote answered why I felt so inadequate when writing my book and in many other aspects of my life.
I was consciously and unconsciously comparing myself, and the feeling of lack and not enough-ness would put me in the losing game of feeling less than, better than or trying to be equal to someone.
 
Then I had a profound spiritual experience.
 
One day my own soul said to me:...
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Everything you ever wanted to know about Transformational Breathwork.

Transformational Breathwork can be so trippy and healing.

I remember when I was in the process of first dating who is now my husband, James, and I remember going into a breathwork class with Nicole Rager, intending to release anything that could limit my expansion and my opening to the relationship.

I was sitting comfortably; it was a good day, nothing was bothering me, and I was enjoying the class. 

I was breathing in, breathing out.

At one point, Nicole put her fingers in the back of my neck and said calmly: It is safe to be yourself.

Immediately after she said those words, I went back in time to when I was 6 or 7 years old growing up at home with my brother, and I remembered I told myself the story that it was not ok to be me, that I needed to be someone else to be loved.

I had no idea I believed that, and I didn't know how it could be associated with meeting a new person. It was one of the most impactful revelations I have had during a breathwork session. 

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