Relationships are everything!
To express the unconditionally loving being that you are, you must have a deep understanding of what healthy boundaries are.
Brene Brown's teachings say there is no such thing as unconditional love if we don't know what boundaries are. She has discovered that the people who have more capacity to be loving and compassionate with others are those who are very clear of what their boundaries are.
To learn how to set healthy boundaries, let's start understanding the meaning of having a healthy sense of self.
You need to know what's ok, and what's not ok for you. In order for you to have this clear, you need to have a healthy sense of self, of identity. What this means, is that you have self-respect, self-love, and self-worth.
Self-respect starts with knowing what's ok and what's not ok for you. What your values are, what do you value the most, what your needs are, and if they are being met. In my case, freedom is my most...
All our suffering comes from what happens in our minds. From the thoughts, ideas, how we perceive the circumstances in our lives. Pain is inevitable. I can't deny it's painful when we go through a breakup or when someone transitions into eternity and it's painful to see what the world is going through. Yet, suffering is a choice.
So my invitation to you today is to treat your mind so it doesn't become addicted to suffering. Give it a spiritual mind treatment, or what we can also call prayer.
I grew up in a Christian family and it was beautiful but for various reasons, I always felt rebellious about it. I used to hear the word prayer and think… hmmm that doesn't work for me. But throughout my spiritual journey, I have come to understand and feel God very differently from what I learned growing up. Payer has become a part of my spirituality. And it's ok if this isn't your case because this type of prayer has nothing to do with religion. This is a spiritual...
Maya Angelou once said: “Survival is very important, but we are living in a time and age where we can practice the elegance of thriving.”
We want to see so many things manifested in our lives, but if we are in a state of survival, there's not much that gets done other than surviving.
So, how do we go from surviving to thriving and why is it important?
Let me tell you a story...
A lady once said to Reverend Michael Beckwith during one of his classes:
“Reverend, I hear you talking about manifestation, reaching your goals, and fulfilling your dreams. I want that for my life. But I also hear you talking about forgiveness, and I don't want to forgive. I'm not ready. So what do I do? Can I still fulfill my dreams even if I don't forgive?”
To this, the Reverend responded with a story.
At the beginning of Agape times (The reverend's spiritual center in LA), the community would go on bicycle rides. For some reason, he would be the last one to arrive back from...
"No one tells you this, but getting into alignment with your inner being can sometimes feel like baptizing a cat." - Michelle Kay
Lewis B. Smedes said: “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and then discover the prisoner was you.”
This is one of my favorite definitions of forgiveness.
Not forgiving is one of the biggest incarcerations. When we are not forgiving, we are making ourselves prisoners of our own resentment. But forgiveness has the power to take us away from the prison and stop the self-abuse.
As described by Reverend Michael Beckwith:
“It is vital for our well being to release the anger and make forgiveness a way of life.”
I've had people tell me, “Paola, I can't believe I have to forgive this again, I thought I had already forgiven it!”
Forgiveness is a way of life. You forgive today, and you feel the goodness of it. Then, in a year or two, you might remember again. The pain raises one more time and so you forgive again.
See it as peeling the layers of the anger and...
Do you feel like the world is in chaos right now?
Staying true to your beliefs can feel challenging when uncertainty is ruling. But you can learn to keep your vibes HIGH no matter what!
I want to take you through 4 steps to stand your truth regardless of the circumstances outside of you, these are:
I know you're ready to expand your consciousness, so let's get to it.
“Comparison is the biggest thief of joy.”
I remember when I was in the process of first dating who is now my husband, James, and I remember going into a breathwork class with Nicole Rager, intending to release anything that could limit my expansion and my opening to the relationship.
I was sitting comfortably; it was a good day, nothing was bothering me, and I was enjoying the class.
I was breathing in, breathing out.
At one point, Nicole put her fingers in the back of my neck and said calmly: It is safe to be yourself.
Immediately after she said those words, I went back in time to when I was 6 or 7 years old growing up at home with my brother, and I remembered I told myself the story that it was not ok to be me, that I needed to be someone else to be loved.
I had no idea I believed that, and I didn't know how it could be associated with meeting a new person. It was one of the most impactful revelations I have had during a breathwork session.