We have to stop asking people to give us what they don't have because we can only give what we have in our hearts.
One of my favorite quotes says “Expectations are premeditated disappointments” and with the holidays coming up in times that are very different to what we are used to, there could be a lot of emotions coming through us.
A lot of disappointments, loneliness, anxiety, especially when it comes to our relationships.
So, how can we keep our power and not give it away?
Here's the SECRET...
By letting go of expectations.
And you let go of expectations by setting intentions.
An expectation is, what can I get from people?
An intention is, what can I bring to people?
So you start by asking yourself, what can I bring to this relationship or to this situation?
It could be joy, gratitude, love.
Now, what about those relationships that have been debilitating, disrespectful, or toxic?
In those cases you could choose to bring:
You don't need anything, the only thing you need is to let go.
You can want what you want, but if your heart is not open to receive it, you're not going to see it manifest in your life.
Let me ask you something…
Have you ever felt uncomfortable when someone does or tries to do something nice for you? A simple gesture like paying for dinner or getting out of their way to help you with something?
If your answer is yes, that's an indicator that your heart might be a little closed, preventing you from manifesting all the beautiful things you want in your life.
My friend Kimberly Gamble said “I've noticed it's easier to give than to receive” and I was so grateful for her comment because it is so true! When you give, you're in control, but when you receive you are in a state of vulnerability and this is a red flag for your ego, so fear shows up to try to protect you.
Yes, my friend, fear is what stops you from manifesting and receiving all those beautiful things you desire so deeply because fear closes...
Barbara Marx said:
“Crisis is an evolutionary driver. Before something new happens the system totally breaks down, and that breakdown is a signal that is allowing something new to breakthrough. If you have evolutionary eyes, you notice that things are breaking through all at once. If we say yes to breaking through, we will find ourselves in the next state of our evolution.”
If you've ever felt like something or everything, is breaking down in your life, that's a clear indicator that something new is trying to emerge. And although this is a synonym of growth, the chaos and crisis it generates put us in survival mode, and that can be very unsettling, even painful.
So how can we confront chaos and crisis so it doesn't feel like we're merely trying to survive?
By looking at it from a different lens.
I had a beautiful conversation with some very resilient and inspiring people who shared their insights on exactly how to look at chaos and crisis from a different...
Are you ok with the level of abundance in your life right now? Abundance in health, friends, money, love.
Are you ok with what you're experiencing, being, and having right now?
If your answer is yes, keep doing that! Keep being in deep appreciation. If your answer is no, let me teach a few things that will help you see and magnetize all the abundance that it is available for you.
I was asking myself, what is the one thing that has helped me manifest abundance in my life?
What I found is that we can only create prosperity and abundance when we are in a space of acceptance and appreciation of how things are, and what is happening right now.
Now, I hear you asking…
Are you telling me I have to appreciate my lack of health?
That I have to appreciate being heartbroken, that I'm in deep debt?
Although we can get to a deep level of consciousness where it is possible to cultivate appreciation for such things, that is not what I'm asking you today. I'm inviting you to...
“Simplicity, patience and compassion are your greatest treasure”
Said by Lao Tzu, Chinese master, and author of the book The Tao.
The Tao is translated as The way of virtue, it's a religion and a philosophy in China.
The Tao is all about letting go, about being in the flow. I remember I didn't like this book when I first started learning about it. We come from such a linear way of thinking where doing is everything. Accomplishing is seen as a synonym of productivity. So reading about simplicity, patience and compassion sounded to me like laziness, like you're not taking responsibility for your life.
But let's dive in a little deeper. I know that if you're reading this is because you know there's more than a shallow meaning behind this philosophy.
One quote of The Tao goes like this…
“Simplicity, patience, compassion.
These three are your greatest treasures.
Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being.
Relationships are everything!
To express the unconditionally loving being that you are, you must have a deep understanding of what healthy boundaries are.
Brene Brown's teachings say there is no such thing as unconditional love if we don't know what boundaries are. She has discovered that the people who have more capacity to be loving and compassionate with others are those who are very clear of what their boundaries are.
To learn how to set healthy boundaries, let's start understanding the meaning of having a healthy sense of self.
You need to know what's ok, and what's not ok for you. In order for you to have this clear, you need to have a healthy sense of self, of identity. What this means, is that you have self-respect, self-love, and self-worth.
Self-respect starts with knowing what's ok and what's not ok for you. What your values are, what do you value the most, what your needs are, and if they are being met. In my case, freedom is my most...