Lewis B. Smedes said: “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and then discover the prisoner was you.”
This is one of my favorite definitions of forgiveness.
Not forgiving is one of the biggest incarcerations. When we are not forgiving, we are making ourselves prisoners of our own resentment. But forgiveness has the power to take us away from the prison and stop the self-abuse.
As described by Reverend Michael Beckwith:
“It is vital for our well being to release the anger and make forgiveness a way of life.”
I've had people tell me, “Paola, I can't believe I have to forgive this again, I thought I had already forgiven it!”
Forgiveness is a way of life. You forgive today, and you feel the goodness of it. Then, in a year or two, you might remember again. The pain raises one more time and so you forgive again.
See it as peeling the layers of the anger and...